What is Sex Coaching?

Let's assume sex coaching just fosters a conversation about sex. Even if it was just talking about sex, freely and in a non-judgemental space, maybe for the first time ever without being afraid to disgust, scare or upset and without the fear of being mocked... even if it was only that. Wouldn't it feel just awesome? Liberating? Empowering? The best part ist: It can be much more, if you let it.

"Sex coaching is a sex-positive, non-pathologizing, future-focused, client-centric approach that empowers you to reach your goals."

Sex coaching is NOT sex therapy. Sex coaching, like all other forms of coaching (e.g. executive coaching, life coaching, etc.) is conducted with healthy individuals aimed at improving their perceived performance, achieving their goals or removing their hurdles. Sex coaches do not medically assess clients (although they keep an eye for warning signs that require a referral to medical practitioners or psychotherapists or co-work with a client and a medical professional to rule out physical issues, for example by sending a client to a urologist for a Free-Testosterone-Test). While medical professionals or sex therapists may utilise medication, sex coaches work with exercises, personalised education and an evidence based talk-only approach based on the assumption that the client possessing many of the required resources already. It is its own form of promoting sexual wellness and includes personalised sexuality information and education, re-directive cognitive processes and mental reframing, emotional balancing, intuitive guidance, behavioural training, action plans and home assignments, and the provision of required resources or referrals.

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Client Testimonials

Three of my clients shared their sexcoaching experience with the Magazin Stern

"Sex coaching has led me to self-reflection. I've realized that I'm often just "performing." I think too much about how I appear to my partner, suck in my stomach, try to be sexy, and in doing so, lose sight of what I really feel. I know that this isn't just a personal issue, but a societal one. Sexuality is simply still very male-centric. Many women know the feeling that everything revolves around orgasm and pleasing the man. Coaching has helped me place more value on my own desires and communicate them."

Jana

"My wife and I both work and have a young son. We were so busy that sex took a back seat. Especially for my wife, sex was no longer an issue. I was worried that we'd eventually become one of those couples who stopped having sex altogether. I would have found that terrible. At the same time, I didn't want to put any pressure on her. You can get away from this rigid, penetrative sex—in, out, and done. We've learned a lot about tools and options, tutorials, and studies. There's a ton of stuff the average person doesn't even know about that brings a lot of flexibility to your sex life."

Quirin

"Just a year ago, I was super uptight. I had this age-old notion that the man had to initiate sex. The woman wasn't allowed to feel desire—and certainly wasn't allowed to show it openly. When I did feel desire, I felt like a slut. I viewed sex more as a duty. I wasn't really having fun. To put it bluntly, I was happy when he didn't touch me. I never used to dare to say what I liked and what bothered me in bed. I thought, 'Oh God, what will he think of me if I tell him that I love anal sex, that I like being submissive?' Coaching liberated me sexually. But it was a process. I had to get to know myself first."

Nica